Over thinking thrills but kills

When we were born, we were unable to recognize the things, persons, colors and least aware about the happenings around us, the only thing dear to us was the curdling and caring hands of our mother and father. As soon as we start growing up, we go away from our innocence.

Worrying about the happenings that never happened or tend to happen become part of our behavior. Fear about the unknown overpowers our mind, and our mind keeps on thinking about the irrelevant till it drains our mind’s energy fully or we feel low or depressed.

Almost all of us keep thinking about one particular thing again and again, leads to anxiety and depression. Sometimes it holds the mind of a person so firmly that he has to face sleepless nights, which effects the overall health of that person. In few cases it acts like termite that eats up one’s happiness, health and wellbeing.  The person starts living in the nonexistent world considering it real as he lives in his mind and tries  to find out the answers to the various happenings, why those happen to him, he visits places and work there, his physical presence is felt by others , whereas  he is mentally absent from that place ,he is least interested in his surroundings and misses the beautiful happenings around him.

Life is like a river, it passes through many ups and downs, it crosses all the hurdles that come its way, if the water stops at one place it stagnates, similarly our mind trapped in the vicious circle of futile thoughts become ill, negative and dull. While overthinking we are creating the problems which are actually not there.

How to check if we are overthinking?

Don’t worry we all overthink, it can be checked and stopped with little effort.

First of all, we have to know when we are overthinking and ruminating and trapped in a single thought.

One can keep check on one’s thought process through various self-analyses,

1. Whenever a person feels that he is struck to one thought from many days or hours, or eats up and drains the energy of the mind.
2. A person feels that he cannot think beyond that, time and again he comes back to same thought.
3. When one thinks what if? Or what if not? The mind is continuously struggling in the circle of what if and what if not, without reaching at any conclusion or solution.
4. In dire cases the person keeps on talking to oneself and repeating the same thing again and again to justify oneself to oneself only none other.
5. A person undergoes sleepless nights, because his mind is struck in one thought, it’s working continuously, not relaxing at all and keeps on clinging to one thought and same thought dwells in mind for many days or months and sometimes years.
6. Overthinking jams the traffic of thoughts of our mind and leaves no space for the positivity.
7. Makes a person dull, blank, less productive or witty.
8. Overthinking also effects the appetite of a person he either eats too much or forgets to take his meals or start doing munching or remains hungry many times, which effects his overall health. Both physical and mental health is affected.
9. It has also been observed when a person in trapped in one thought either he bits his nails or keep on chewing plastic things or backside of pencil or pen. Few persons also keep on tapping their leg on the floor or blinking eyes or tapping the fingers on the table.
10. A person remains exited, self -centered, anxious or depressed at times. For him the life has stopped or come to an end.
11. The person who is struck on one thought mostly absent from the present, he lives either in past or future.
12. When a person is thinking too much about one thing, he is overthinking.
13. When ones thinking overpowers one’s mind and do not allow it to think anything productive or innovative.
14. Sometimes a person feels that life has become burden for him as he is unable to reach at any conclusion.
15. Forgets to live in present, past events makes him cranky, dull and blocks his mind.
16. Overthinking makes a person nervous; the fuse of his mind remains off most of the times.
17. He lives in an imaginary world, away from the reality.
18. He keeps on worrying about something and its consequences, which is not exactly in existence.
19. Takes away the peace of mind.
20. Turmoil of thoughts creates chaos in the mind that one day it takes the volcanic shape.
21. He gets out of his nervous very easily.

Overthinking is a major problem, but every problem has the solution. If it is not checked within time, it’s becomes like an unorganized traffic, where there is no red light. When we overthink, we ruminate the same thing time and again, we cross the limits of our mind that we have set for ourselves for years, and put ourselves in a dilemma that those imaginary baseless conclusions are true. It eats up the power of our mind to think rationally, lessens the efficacy to work as whole of the day we remain stick to one point only, trying to bring zero out of zero, it has no end. We have to break its chain which gives birth to many fears. We can help ourselves and also seek the help of others to overcome it. Our mind needs to take rest to work properly, while doing something we are thinking about the other, effects our efficiency to do any task. For proper functioning of our mind and to increase our efficacy in any field we have to reduce the number of thoughts and focus on what is positive and possible.

Few steps that can be taken to reduce the traffic of the thoughts.

1. When you have a futile thought which is draining the energy of mind, try to replace it with a positive thought.
2. Meditation can also help to reduce and replace the thoughts which are irritating and depleting the energy of our mind.
3. Seek the help of a friend or a loved one, who can understand you well and help you to come out of this thought process.
4. Stop being guilty and overcome the fear of future.
5. Live in the present moment as it is the most precious one, full of hope and its fulfillment.
6. Go with the flow, it would make you to live in the present.
7. Have a sigh of relief as you have found the reason that is depleting your energy.
8. Throw the waste thoughts out of your mind as you throw garbage out of your house.
9. Add positivity to your life, find positivity in everything and everywhere around you. Find optimism in all the situations that you come across.
10. Start living in a parabolic world.
11. Read the good books with positive messages, make those your friends.
12. Visit the places with natural surroundings, these help to rejuvenate your energy and freshens your mind and soul.
13. Learn and try the new skills that fascinate and interests you most.
14. Alienate yourself from the negative people and negative thoughts.
15. Meet the people with positive minds and energy.
16. Stop being fake at times, try to live in truthfulness.
17. Follow your passion, believe in your potential.
18. Help the others who are in need.
19. Take care of your words while speaking to someone, be polite and humble.
20. Always believe in the power of your subconscious mind and Almighty.
21. Keep yourself busy in doing something, try to give new assignments and challenges to your mind from time to time.

 I wish these tips prove helpful to some extent to control one’s mind, so that maximum power the brain can be used in a positive and productive manner.

Stay safe and healthy, happy reading.